Relationship and communication.

This post is inspired by a couple of comments by me on annush's blog. Though it's not a comment on anyone.

There is a beautiful Indian movie called Ijaazat (Permission). Bear with me for a brief plot outline. It starts with the meeting of the hero, Naseer, and the heroine, Rekha, in a waiting room of a railway station. The story then goes into a flashback, where Naseer is in love with Anu, who is a pretty progressive in thoughts. Anu is non-commital on marriage as she thinks it might spoil the relationship. Meanwhile, Naseer is coaxed to marry an acquaintance, Rekha (yep who meets him in the waiting room), and Naseer tries one last time, asking Anu to marry him. Fast forward, Naseer is married to Rekha. Rekha sees some of the stuff of Anu lying in their house. She also comes to know about her through Naseer, who shares a platonic relationship with Anu. This bothers Rekha a lot and she becomes insecure. There is a beautiful dialogue by Naseer to Rekha on Anu, "More than me it's you who can not seem to forget her". Anyway, the story goes on and one day, Naseer is informed that Anu is serious in a hospital. He rushes from the office and comforts Anu. Next day, Rekha while doing the laundry finds Anu's earring stuck in Naseer sweater. She leaves him, in a moment of anger and anguish, thinking she is coming in between the two of them. But then one day she calls up Naseer to sort it out only to be answered by Anu on the phone. She leaves her home for an unknown destination, wishing him all the best with Anu.
The flashback ends there.
In the waiting room, Rekha asks Naseer, meeting him after a gap of a few years, about his life and Anu. Naseer tells her that after she had left him, he had a heart attack and Anu took his care. That was when, it seems, Rekha had called her. Anu wanted Naseer to call Rekha back but Naseer dismissed saying, "she went on her own, she should come on her own".
And about Anu, she had died in a road accident.
Regretting the events, they both sleep. In the morning, when Rekha returns his shawl (because it was cold, Naseer had offered her the shawl), her earring is also stuck in that. That's when Naseer says, "it does not mean, I slept with you. You had totally misinterpreted the chain of events."

Naseer wants to say, they can still get back, when Sashi, comes walking through the waiting room door, calling out Rekha, asking her to pack up and hurry up. Turns out, Rekha has married Sashi. Sashi takes her luggage out, and Rekha before departing says, "Pehle main bina pooche chali gayi thi, ab ijaazat de dijiye."
Translated it means, Earlier I had left without asking, please give me the permission now."

And she bows to him. Sashi, who is wondering whats taking his wife so long, comes rushing in and is puzzled. When they both go out, Rekha with teary eyes, Sashi asks her, who it was and then after a moments pause asks, "Naseer?". And the movie ends.

It's a beautiful movie and it is about how insecure we can get in our relationships only because we do not care to confront the situations. We draw our own inferences and perhaps it gets too late by the time we know the truth.

A relationship is worth all the pain in the world, but while in it. And the feeling of hurt is the most when a relationship goes down the drains only because we chose not to talk, not to communicate with the person we love.

This post is not a comment on anyone, but I am sure, everyone has been through it atleast once in one's lifetime.